Dear KayJay:

I am 20 years old student attending Michigan State University. There's a guy I really like, and we've been dating for over a week now. He wants to sleep with me, but I'm not sure. I want to keep him as a friend, but I think it may be too early in the relationship to began having sex. My friends say go for it and have fun a little, but 1 week is a bit too early, whether I want to or not. What do you think?

TooEarly


Dear TooEarly:

It sounds like you do not want to have sex too early in the relationship. There is nothing wrong with waiting to get to know a person before becoming sexually involved. In my opinion, sex only confuses emotions amongst girls because we tend to jump way over our heads while the guy feels the opposite of how we feel. So, ask yourself if you want to be sex buddies or romantically involved with your partner, and then ask your partner the same question. If he's not on the same page as you, then its best to wait to give yourself away. You have the power to determine when it is a good time to have sex in a relationship. Everyone is different, some girls prefer the 90 day rule, while others don't have any rules when it comes to how long to wait to have sex with your partner. Just don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do, and protect yourself at all times against STD's and unwanted pregnancies. And if you wait 4 weeks or 4 dates, that's your business and your decision.

Xoxo Kay Jay